You want to know if I am doing "what" with "who"?

What does a woman think she is going to accomplish by calling the "other woman"? This is something that has always bugged the shit out of me. How does a woman, who suspects her man of cheating, pick up the phone and call someone she doesn't even know and interrogate her?

I think that when your man is "suspect", you need to take that shit up with him. You need to ask him what you want to know...you need to leave the other person out of it. The "other woman" has no loyalties to you. She owes you no explanation. YOUR MAN is the one that (possibly) violated..she owes you nothing. HE DOES.

How can this conversation ever go well? How does the caller not look ridiculous? How foolish and desperate does this person sound? -Seriously- take a look at yourself...you look like a complete idiot..it sucks that you made a bad choice, it sucks that you don't trust your man, it sucks that your man might be fucking someone else but --pull yourself together--I understand that hurt feelings and betrayal are involved here, but get that sympathy from your friends. 'Cuz ya won't get it here. I absolutely WILL NOT tolerate this kind of bullshit in my life. I have no patience for women that want to create a "sisterhood alliance" with me because we might be sleeping with the same man. I have no stories for her. I am not "on her side"..we will not be friends, we will not compare notes. She will be even more frustrated after getting off the phone with me than she was before. In fact, she will be referred right back to her man, she will get nothing from me. Let him explain to her who he is creepin' with.

I bet people are thinking that "if that were you...you would want to know..." You don't need to tell me a goddamn thing. The signs are obvious, I don't need some random woman confirming anything for me. TRUST ME, the only thing I will be calling you for is to tell you to come get his shit. I might even be nice and tell you what hospital he is in. LOL!

Some might say that we have a responsibility as women to let the caller know what exactly is going on, what kind of dirt her man is up to,...I disagree, this is her drama, his drama and their drama. Never will their drama be mine. I mean seriously, what do you want me to tell you? If I knew about you? That I am doin' it with your man, and how many times a week, how we met, when the last time we did it was? It's funny that women never ask if you 'love' their man. They just assume that you are some hooker off the street, that he is just using for sex.

So the next time you decide to confront the 'other woman'...make sure you're ready for what she has to tell, or in my case, what she will never tell.