Can we COMMIT here?

Are the men that I meet unwilling to commit to a relationship? Or are they just unwilling to commit to a relationship with me?

I sometimes have to ask myself, Brenda..what the fuck are you doing? I usually can't give myself an honest answer. Why is it that I come across so many men that are unwilling or unable to be in a committed relationship? I can't (or don't want to) admit that the problem lies with me. I wonder sometimes if I really want and are even able to deal with a relationship. Have I accepted the harsh reality that I will remain forever single?

I think some of the answers are easy. I don't put pressure on any of my men. I let them roam about however they please. I don't MAKE them do anything. I have no demands. I take these men as they come and go, in and out of my life, as if it was a revolving door..I appreciate when they take time to make me a part of their agenda, but act as if I don't care if they don't. I don't ring their phone off the hook..I only call them if I have something important to say. I never show up uninvited or unannounced..

I am not sure what all this means. It can mean several things...it can mean that I really don't care about any of these men..I don't view them as "my man" material..(Would I really care if I never saw any of these men again?) Or it can mean that I am afraid to make demands. I have made demands before, with not very good results.. the end result was 2 times problematic...ONE: I did not get what I plainly asked for, and TWO: I was pissed that I didn't get it.

I refuse to beg for someone's time and attention...If someone wants to give me their attention, it has to be because they want to give it to me, not because I have whined and cried about it. This just causes too many resentments. I beg for NOTHING.

Well, maybe it's time to take a different approach, seeing how the old one just isn't working for me...or is it?