Can you stand the rain?

There is one thing that will make me go from zero to 100 in 1.5 seconds.
Just say something ignorant. or unnecessary. And let it be about 'the boy'.
To me, that's like mixing fire and gasoline.

This applies to anyone and everyone. Including Sexy Man.

I understand that people have bad days. I understand that people don't always like
dealing with kids, but don't step to me ignorant about it, I don't care who the fuck you are, and
think you will get a civil response.
'Cuz ya won't.

The boy and 2 of his friends were on the softball field last night, before the game.
Sexy Man was hitting balls, and they were chasing after them. I heard the umpire tell
sexy man "don't hit the kids!"

"Them ain't my kids!" I heard him mumble back. And he continued to hit the balls.
Oh really.
Well, were they your kids the other 150 million times that you have told them
to do something?
Ignorant and unnecessary.

So, he walks over to me and says.."GET them kids OFF the field!"
"OK.." I say.."but why didn't you just tell me to tell them earlier?"

"Because..they ain't my kids!"
Again with that.

Okay.
So you couldn't tell me earlier because they ain't your kids..
but you can tell me 5 minutes later..because..?
They still ain't your kids, right?

I think the biggest problem that I have with this is that we just didn't meet yesterday.
We been kickin it for 2 years. He sees my son in the morning, while he walks around in
his boxer briefs. He tells the boy about himself whenever necessary, and
it's usually things that stop him from getting hurt and I have no problem
with that.
The boy has respect for sexy man, and knows that he tells him these things because he
wants to protect him from harm's way. We have that understanding.

I am pissed at this point. So I think about it for a second and then say:
"Well, what is the difference between you telling me NOW or telling me FIVE MINUTES AGO?"

He walked away without saying another word to me.
Good idea.

Yeah, I could have went the other route. But let's just stick to the logical aspect.
He is right, they "ain't his kids" so, I would be a fool to argue that point.
Besides, it's not even about that.

Can anyone tell me WHY--not 20 minutes later..he was telling the same kids--the ones that
are not his -- that they needed to move over to the light if they were gonna play catch because
it was dark where they were and it was hard to see the ball..and that he didn't want them to get
hit in the head! And 30 minutes later..the boy fell, and didn't get up right away, and he said to me..
"man down! man down!"--he walked over in that direction to make sure everything was ok with the boy--
that ain't his kid!

The rest of the night, I didn't say anything to him. I looked his way a few times..but quickly looked away.
No winking..no smiling..no touching.
Just softball.
And my attitude.

He had planned to come over after softball..to go to the gym and hang out.
When we were done, we both
walked to our cars, and it looked like he was waiting for me..I usually go over to his car and we talk about the
games and make our after hours plans--you know--what are you doing..where are you going..when are you coming type shit.

Well, not tonight.

I got in my car and rolled out. We drove next to each other the whole way home..
I never looked in his direction, and never called him. I got home, took a shower, called my girlfriend, and
then went to bed.

I have not spoken to him yet today, and I don't really know how I feel about him after yesterday.

My girlfriend says, that maybe he just forgot, that I don't play that shit, and he needed a little
reminder. She said that maybe he is just trying to test the waters to see where we stand.
She also said, that he was probably just having a bad day, and needed someone to take it out on.
And the only person that he is comfortable enough with, is me.
It just so happens, he picked the wrong place, time, and topic.
And she also said that he was trying to redeem himself later,
because he knows he was wrong, and he knows he fucked up...

I say that I am over it..and that I have embraced the fact that things need sun AND RAIN to grow.
If there was just sun..everything would be burnt the fuck up.
Rain is good.

On a perfect dayI know that I can count on you
When thats not possible
Tell me can you weather a storm
cause I need somebody who will stand by me
Through the good times and the bad times
She would always-always be right there

Sunny days everybody loves them-tell me baby
Can you stand the rain
Storms will come-this we know for sure
Can you stand the rain

Love unconditional
Im not asking just of you
Girl to make it last
Ill do whatever needs to be done
But I need somebody who will stand by me
When its tough she wont run
She would always be right there for me.

~New Edition